This was an interesting discussion kids. Kannu is already facing these issues and Diya will start dating or spending money with friends so it's a good time to talk about this. There's no hard and fast rule but I wanted to talk about my personal views. Your views will be different.
If I'm out with somebody on a date then goes without saying I would pay. The man pays. Just like he opens the door. And waits for the woman to sit down. And listens more to the girl than he talks. That's what a gentleman does. If it's a very large amount like if you're going on a holiday then you could say that you'll pay for the hotel and she has only to pay for her flights. That's ok. But broadly, the guy pays. That's what a gentleman does.
What about the woman? The girl, if she has money, should offer. But if she can't, that's ok, the guy should be smart enough to know and clearly enunciate right at the beginning that he will pay. But that's the lady like behaviour, offer if you can. And if you can't, make it up on some other way. Cook him some brownies. It's not about the money, it's about the character and empathy you show. If or when you live with somebody say like in a college, then have a good system to share the costs and chores. Otherwise you feel taken advantage of and you always have a bad reputation of that chap. People who skive or sponge are not fun.
Then again, you don't have to spend money to go on dates. I wouldn't do that. Never try to impress with money. And if money impresses your date, walk away. They aren't good. There are zillions of ways to be with somebody without needing to spend large sums of money. How about sitting in the coffee shop and reading Alice in wonderland snippets to each other? Visiting galleries? Or going for walks? Or volunteering together at a charity place? Or cook together. So many ways to spend time together. Don't waste money on paying somebody to impress your girl or guy. Know them by spending time with them.
But then what do I know? I'm an old fuddy duddy :) you guys may find different ways.
Love
Baba
Who Picks Up the Check in the Tinder-verse? — The Future of Money — Medium
https://medium.com/the-future-of-money/who-picks-up-the-check-in-the-tinder-verse-767037d367fe#.ykpdv0iuo
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If I'm out with somebody on a date then goes without saying I would pay. The man pays. Just like he opens the door. And waits for the woman to sit down. And listens more to the girl than he talks. That's what a gentleman does. If it's a very large amount like if you're going on a holiday then you could say that you'll pay for the hotel and she has only to pay for her flights. That's ok. But broadly, the guy pays. That's what a gentleman does.
What about the woman? The girl, if she has money, should offer. But if she can't, that's ok, the guy should be smart enough to know and clearly enunciate right at the beginning that he will pay. But that's the lady like behaviour, offer if you can. And if you can't, make it up on some other way. Cook him some brownies. It's not about the money, it's about the character and empathy you show. If or when you live with somebody say like in a college, then have a good system to share the costs and chores. Otherwise you feel taken advantage of and you always have a bad reputation of that chap. People who skive or sponge are not fun.
Then again, you don't have to spend money to go on dates. I wouldn't do that. Never try to impress with money. And if money impresses your date, walk away. They aren't good. There are zillions of ways to be with somebody without needing to spend large sums of money. How about sitting in the coffee shop and reading Alice in wonderland snippets to each other? Visiting galleries? Or going for walks? Or volunteering together at a charity place? Or cook together. So many ways to spend time together. Don't waste money on paying somebody to impress your girl or guy. Know them by spending time with them.
But then what do I know? I'm an old fuddy duddy :) you guys may find different ways.
Love
Baba
Who Picks Up the Check in the Tinder-verse? — The Future of Money — Medium
https://medium.com/the-future-of-money/who-picks-up-the-check-in-the-tinder-verse-767037d367fe#.ykpdv0iuo
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Three millennials talk about the future of money, dating, and what's changed since 'Sex and the City.'
It's time to update America and Earth on the state of how people deal with money issues within relationships — marriages, friendships, Tinder dates, and everyone in between. I myself am surprised how far we can come in a couple of short decades — I rewatched Sex and the City and learned it wasn't that long ago we were still puzzling over what it "means" when a man resents your professional success!
To discuss these issues, I've roped in two people who have used money before in the presence of other humans: Jaya Saxena, who is married, and Cale Weissman, who is filing-status single but currently in a relationship.
So Jaya and Cale, consider this scenario: two people have swiped right on each other on Tinder. Emotions are running high, the vibes are there. They go on a date. Who pays??
To discuss these issues, I've roped in two people who have used money before in the presence of other humans: Jaya Saxena, who is married, and Cale Weissman, who is filing-status single but currently in a relationship.
So Jaya and Cale, consider this scenario: two people have swiped right on each other on Tinder. Emotions are running high, the vibes are there. They go on a date. Who pays??
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